This is a very common occurance, not only with pupils but also with high school students. Unfortunately, it will continue even when the children grow up and get a job. This behavior can get them poor grades in school, and, later, poor results at work and in life.Let’s start with early childhood.
After the play time, we’ll pick the toys and place them in the proper place. We could teach the child to list the toys he/she played with, to look for them and put them away. Before we go out with our child, to visits, on trips, to school, we could talk with the child about the clothes to wear, and then prepare it. We will start with underwear, socks, in the order in which children dress, the shoes and bags with toys. Together, we will take items, check them and leave them prepared until it’s time to leave. On the way back, we will encourage the child to list the things he/she carried with him/her, and check if everything is still there.
When the child goes to school, instead of toys ,we will pack school supplies . No matter if the child goes to school in the morning or in the afternoon, the night before ,we will prepare the clothing, home key, the money, if necessary, and then move on to the books, notebooks and other school supplies. We will read a timetable and prepare the books subject by subject. Very quickly, especially if child has done the same during the preschool period, the child will begin to prepare things whitout any help, all we have to do is clean and press the clothes.
Upon arrivingt from school,we talk to our child about every lesson of the day, about how the it went, new lessons and homework. The child should immediately learn new lessons and do homework, if ther is no time, make a list of obligations.
If our child started high school with a habit of forgetting to carry the necessary supplies or do homework, no big deal. Let’s start from scratch, from preparing to go out, going to the visit, the obligations of home to school obligations.
We will probably meet with resistance of a big child, but let’s be persistent. Of course it is not necessary to prepare things nor to do the homework together, but we need to explain how a systematic approach is important and how it protects us from the unpleasant and sometimes, dangerous mistakes. We can make a plan together to change bad habits and monitor fulfillment of the plan. Sometimes it is necessary to explicitly require a change of behavior.
If we, the parents, approach systematically the problem, our children will, as well, begin to have a systematic approach to their obligations.
It is the parent’s behavior that is bringing up the children.
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