Monday, July 25, 2011

A child's position in the family

I just read a book of "Why Firstborns Rule the World and Last Borns Want to Change It." By Michael Grose.
The conclusion is :
-A child's position in the family impacts his personality, his behavior and his learning.
As the leader of the pack, firstborns often tend to be:
·         Reliable
·         Conscientious
·         Structured
·         Cautious
·         Controlling
·         Achievers
Firstborns bask in their parents' presence, which may explain why they sometimes act like mini-adults. Firstborns are diligent and want to be the best at everything they do. They excel at winning the hearts of their elders.
Famous firstborns: Oprah, Hillary Clinton, Winston Churchill, Sylvester Stallone and Bill Clinton.

Middle Child
In general, middle children tend to possess the following characteristics:
·         People-pleasers
·         Somewhat rebellious
·         Thrives on friendships
·         Has large social circle
·         Peacemaker
Famous middles: David Letterman, Richard Nixon, Madonna and Princess Diana.
Last Born
Youngest children tend to be the most free-spirited due to their parents' increasingly laissez-faire attitude towards parenting the second (or third, or fourth, or fifth...) time around. The baby of the family tends to be:
·         Fun-loving
·         Uncomplicated
·         Manipulative
·         Outgoing
·         Attention-seeker
·         Self-centered
Famous younglings: Jim Carrey, Billy Crystal, Steve Martin, Cameron Diaz and Rosie O'Donnell.
Only Children
Being the only child is a unique position in a family. Without any siblings to compete with, the only child monopolizes his parents' attention and resources, not just for a short period of time like a firstborn, but forever. In effect, this makes an only child something like a "super-firstborn": only children have the privilege (and the burden) of having all their parents' support and expectations on their shoulders. Thus, only children tend to be:
·         Mature for their age
·         Perfectionists
·         Conscientious
·         Diligent
·         Leaders
Famous only children: Jack Welch, Tiger Woods, Alan Greenspan and Maria Sharapova.

My child: Personal teacher/Tutor
My child: Behaviour at school
My child: Grades, grades, grades….
My child: A child's position in the family
My child: Family rules are important

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